Sep 122010
 

From Chicago, I continued my US tour by visiting R’s home for a few days. It was lovely to meet his mom, who is very sweet and friendly. We had a good time eating, talking and using the pool. It’s a quiet little world in South Jersey, but it was much greener and spread out than I had expected. I guess it’s true that North Jersey gives Jersey it’s bad name, because it was really nice in the south part.

After a few days, we headed to Florida a few days before our Western Caribbean cruise. Since neither of us had been to the Florida Keys, we decided to rent a car and check it out. We stayed in Key Largo and then drove down to Key West. It was a really beautiful drive in our red Mustang. We also enjoyed some good eats there – we love our food! πŸ˜€

Thankfully, the pre-cruise trip put us in a good mood to carry us through the shocking experience of the cruise. It was our first cruise and though we had looked into it a great deal, we were not prepared for what we faced. Carnival was said to be more of a party-boat company, but it should be described as a floating-Disneyland! Too much happiness, too much over the top, too much EVERYTHING! Also, unfortunately, after our first stop in Cozumel, I got terribly sick and say the Grand Caymans from the room and barely took in what little there was to see of Ocho Rios, Jamaica. We questioned whether there would be any further cruising after this summer, but kept up hopes for the upcoming Alaska cruise to be better….

All-in-all, the end of the mostly East Coast visit of the States was pleasant and I began looking forward to some time at home.

Pics are up next!

More to come…

-T

Sep 122010
 

1. As I was telling my BF the story I wrote about the taxi driver, it occurred to me that while I took it as a positive story it didn’t sound as such as I was sharing it. In fact, it just sounded like another one of my crazy taxi ride stories in this country…<sigh> Which way should I think of it…?

2. Lately I’ve been using my birth name to log in to some writing sites that I’ve started publishing articles on and as I clicked on the “Remember me” box, I found it rather ironic or fitting somehow that I click that box as I begin a writing journey on my adoption experience.

3. I’ve been reading a lot of adoptees blogs lately and admit to being quite surprised at the anger and hurt that is coming out in their written words. Sometimes I wonder if I’ve buried similar feelings, deny them or if I have somehow gotten over it…if it should even be gotten over…?

4. Setting goals puts the world in a sad realistic viewpoint.

  • Money – not enough of it and need to cutback.
  • Career – not content at the moment and have to work harder and more productively towards getting where I want to be.
  • Love – totally happy and going with the flow, but do I want more…? (still thinking on this one)
  • Location – here for a few reasons, but it’s not ideal. Yet, I don’t know where I want to go….

5. Relationships in general are both complicated and simple. Good friends make the relationship simple and easy. These are so hard to come by and I so wish that more of my close friends were nearby, especially my BFF. Other relationships can be complicated either because they are developing friendships with potential to be good ones, they will merely be acquaintances never to become anything more, or not meant to be anything at all. Finding the right balance, knowing how and who to invest time/effort in is a complex task. Simple is best, but I also hate to be closed to chances of developing ones to become great….

Well, anywho those are my random thoughts of late. Now, I will try to catch up a bit on my postings from the summer holidays!

More to come…

-T

 Posted by at 14:08
Sep 102010
 

…coming home. I walked into my apartment after being gone for nearly three months and questioned if this was really home….

It’s nice to be back, though. I felt happy unpacking and knowing that I don’t have to lug a suitcase around for at least 8 weeks or more. πŸ˜€

As I became familiar with my surroundings again, I also decided that with a new school year should come some changing of the furniture. I used to change my room as a kid every few months just to give myself a fresh perspective and a sense of a new start. So, this is the same. I want to be happy to be back and look forward to going to work, but I admit it’s a bit of a struggle.

Though, I was heartened by my taxi ride experience coming back from the airport. Usually, I think about saving money and try for local cabs, but it’s a flat fee from the airport to the city center and the Audi looked pleasant to ride in. My driver, Yousef, was very friendly and began to talk to me. Having just come from the States and not yet again jaded by people, I carried on conversation with him. Yousef told me about his family back in Egypt and that he was going to see them the next day after a year apart. He said he wanted to buy his daughters – one 5 and one 3 – Barbie dolls. He asked if I could help him pick them out. Since it’s a flat fee for the ride, I said sure – why not? My American-way of thinking expected him to find the Toys R’ Us or stop at Carrefour, but when we stopped at the AD Co-op, I realized he was on a different budget than I was. So, we went in and I began looking for Barbies, but it turns out he really wanted babies and babies that talk, crying “mama”, “dada”, “wahwah” etc. My worst nightmare in terms of children’s toys! So we looked all over and couldn’t find just what he wanted. Apparently, the flower shop at the front of the store had them a few weeks prior, but now he didn’t see them and no one was there to help. Thus, for about 20 minutes, we went back and forth trying to decide what to do. When he had given up, someone was at the flower shop and sure enough, they had just what he wanted on the top shelf! So, we left happily.

It was nice to help him out and to see him so excited to have found what he wanted. It didn’t cost me anything except a bit of time and kindness. Things got a little strange when we were almost to my place and he said he wanted to buy his wife a baby doll. I was confused since we had just bought baby dolls for his daughters…then I realized he meant for the bedroom – “for just my wife and me…”! He asked if I would help him at the store to get that and I wisely declined. After all my other experiences with drivers here and the men in this country, I have at least wizened up to such things! He seemed to understand, and was content to take me to my apartment. Phew!

So, it was a nice return to this place that is called home. It’s a strange feeling to be here after so long in the States this summer, but it’s a new school year, a new perspective and now newly-placed furniture! πŸ˜‰

More to come…

T

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