This morning as I begrudgingly prevented myself from feeling annoyed by my husband’s late schedule, in other words his presence and interruption to my daily routine, we were discussing life.
Lately, we have both been quite busy and realized it would be quite easy to lose touch with one another. We thought about how having children disrupts the marital relationship – or, work or life in general. It is often said that you have to work at keeping a marriage going. This is true. But, at the same time, it is not so much that it is ‘work’ as in an endurance or obligation in life like it is to make money or take care of your children. Instead, to me, it is about making it a priority to enjoy the moments you have together.
This goes for life.
So many people have accepted that complaining about life, work, partners, etc. is what we do. However, when we stop to enjoy moments that we share then suddenly things just are not so negative. I, like everyone, need to be reminded from time to time to switch my perspective – even just a little – and then the moment becomes enjoyable.
Take for example, our recent snow storm in Tokyo. It was amazing. I was excited. Of course, it has been nine years since I’ve had the experience of snow and I was lucky enough to have a free-ish schedule to allow me to avoid any dangerous aspects that it might cause. However, as I was speaking to a colleague who is my age, single with no kids, etc. she was surprised at my excitement. She kept pointing out that it is dangerous to walk, or that it’s cold and wet or that the trains get disrupted, or, or , or…. To me, these were not good enough reasons to not be excited at the βοΈ snow.
As I walked home, I took pictures of its beauty and enjoyed the cold that I felt. It was a moment to enjoy.
I wondered what perspective shift would be required to make my colleague excited about this weather. Mostly, I just felt sad for her lack of ability to enjoy a temporary moment. That’s it, isn’t it? Every moment is temporary. Life passes by quickly and our situations change all the time. So, through the good and the bad are moments for us to learn and grow from. Most of all, they are for us to take in and live!
~T π
**Apologies for the bit of stream of conscientiousness style today….** π
