Contradictions….

We are all walking contradictions, aren’t we?

If we think about terms like:

Do as I say, not as I do. OR The grass is always greener on the other side.

Or, even if we were to analyze our negative sentiments towards hypocrisy, we would likely find that there is so much we are hypocritical about in our own lives.

I have always struggled with the concept of conformity. Yet, that doesn’t mean I want to stand out either. In fact, I spent much of my childhood and even many adult years trying very hard to avoid being ‘noticed’, but then when I am not noticed I feel slighted.

The other day, someone posted about something to the effect of:

If you tell someone something they don’t like and they get upset with you, it’s some issue with them that they need to deal with to accept what you have said. On the other hand, if someone tells you something that you don’t like then, it is still some issue with them that they felt the need to tell you something you didn’t like.

🤔 My question, then, is at what point do we need to deal with our issues that we needed to tell someone something we didn’t like or perhaps we need to accept what someone has said that upset us?

The reality is that we can never ‘win’ or be happy with this kind of thinking. 🤦🏽‍♀️

So, is there an answer…? 🤷🏽‍♀️ From my limited understanding, reading and observing, it seems that there is not. We can only try our best to understand ourselves as well as we can and react accordingly to whatever life throws at us.

Therefore, if I want to be noticed, then I should make some noise! Or, if I am unhappy with something someone has said, I can reflect upon it and then respond in a way that we both gain from the communication. Taking responsibility for both my causal actions and my responses, I can avoid as many contradictions as I can that may cause some disharmony in the world. The less disharmony, the better, right?

This is a bit of a ‘brainstorm’ for an article I am about to begin working on as well as the practice of just writing to ensure I am moving forward with these habits. Plus, I need a method to some of the madness called my mind. 😉

~T 😀